You and you alone will determine how far you are going to go in life

You and you alone will determine how far you are going to go in life. This may sound as an overly exaggerated, preposterous and unfounded statement. Give me a minute to show you why I think despite that fact that a gazillion things may be completely out of your control, the things that matter are under your control. You have to learn to identify the things that matter, master and leverage them and you will be unstoppable.

It is a waste of your time, energy and resources to fret over the gazillion things that are out of your control. For example, you were not consulted to be born in this century and did not choose what continent to be born on. You did not choose your parents and the color of your skin, even your looks, eye color, hair texture, etc. This is an unending list and there is no point wishing to be somewhere else or somebody else. Therefore get along with the program and enjoy the ride while it lasts.

One of the profound keys to success is realizing that the gazillion things you cannot change are the very things that will make you successful. Instead of these things becoming liabilities as many people will make you to think, they can become the fuel that you need to be successful in all you do.

Once you understand that you have what it takes for you to fulfill your purpose in this life and that the competition is not against others but against yourself, your focus while change from others to you.

That is when a little talk with yourself each day becomes extremely important. You have to constantly remind yourself that, since you were not consulted to be born at this time, but were born anyway! You are in the right place at the right time. You were born at a time like this because you are needed and have a role to play. Society may grade and reward the different roles we play differently. That is not what I am talking about. I referring to you finding what you are good at and doing it to the best of your ability.

Get up each morning stand in front of the mirror, smile and remind yourself that there is no better time to be living than now. The 30s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, are gone forever. Stop wishing you were living back then. If you were needed back then you would have been born back then. Now is when you are needed, now is when your can make the

greatest impact.

Therefore get excited and get going.

Remember the words of King Solomon, “ The power of the tongue is life and death- those who love to talk will eat what it produces.”

According to King Solomon, your lot in life is not determined by when, where and who gave birth to you, but by how you talk. Most often the gazillion things that are out of your control are those that influence or talking. For example it is common to hear people say that, they cannot do something because they were not born in some particular race, or some doors will not open to them because they do not have this or that.

Learn to talk life and not death and your dreams and aspirations will not only thrive they will yield a bountiful harvest.

Replace, I cannot with I can and you will be amazed by how much this will transform and change your situation.

Originally published at on July 15, 2020.



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Dr. Eric Tangumonkem, Author, Inspiration Speaker

My mission is to inspire, equip and motivate people from all works of life to become aware of the greater possibilities for their own lives and to take ACTION.